Thursday, April 17, 2008

Kill it before it's too late

Self esteem is the arch enemy of procrastination. With strong self esteem, you will most likely not procrastinate, because procrastination is an act of avoidance, and with strong enough self esteem you will not feel the need to avoid things.  Fear of criticism, one of the main allies of procrastination, can be completely demolished by strong self esteem. Confronting self esteem, and keeping it down is critical in sustaining procrastination. This can be done through some simple techniques: 
  1. Take an all or nothing attitude. By doing this, you can make sure that anything that is not a total success is a complete failure. Since complete success is so rare, you're ensured of a long string of abysmal failures, keeping your self esteem properly deflated.
  2. Internalize all criticism without question. Whenever you're given a negative assessment of any kind, add it to the repertoire of your inner critic. Never question the motives or objectivity of the person criticizing.
  3. Never forgive yourself. Following the techniques above, you will have a steady inflow of failures and flaws to deal with. By making sure to never forgive yourself, you will keep your list of mistakes steadily growing, pushing your self esteem further down.
  4. Never analyze your mistakes. When you've done something that you later regret, make sure to treat it as a character flaw, not as an unfortunate event that you can learn from.
  5. When you hurt others through your actions, never seek to atone for them. Never ask for forgiveness. If you try to atone and ask for forgiveness, you're likely to receive both that and sympathy, and you might start to forgive yourself, violating rule 3.
  6. Apply rigid rules to yourself. Rules such as "I have to be independent", "I have to get all A:s in school" or "I have to be liked by everyone" are almost impossible to live up to, and create more instances for you to fail even while you might appear to be succeeding by other standards.
  7. Make your rules mutually exclusive. That way, you can make sure to always break at least one of them. 

1 comment:

lucello1 said...

I like number 7 *g